“It is important for women to know who they are and to know what makes their heart sing.”–Deborah Norville
It is easy to lose yourself in this cruel world. I’m sure we can all vouch to the fact that we lost ourselves at some point whether it be within a relationship, family grievances, or a difficult situation–but the most important thing is that we find ourselves. And once we find ourselves, we know ourselves.
Gurlll let me tell you, once you know who you are, no one can influence you without your permission.
And basically that’s what happened to me. I lost myself in a BAD way in a toxic relationship. I was married. I was all in which way consumed and overpowered by love where I couldn’t help but to see the best in him. I thought I could change him, make him better, until I finally realized that enough was enough. So I let it go.
After I exited the relationship, I finally saw all the damage and hurt I was living with, the bullsh*t I was putting up with, and oh how I missed myself. It’s crazy to fathom how being with one person can really change you for the worst; turn your world completely upside down.
So I did a lot of soul searching, therapy sessions, and self talks to find myself again. To get back to my morals and values my parents instilled within me. Although that whole experience absolutely sucked, it made me better.
I am completely in love with the person I have become. I’m focused, I’m strong, and I’m happy. I’m a completely different person than I was then. And for that I am thankful.
I now know who I am. And you can take it or leave it.
- unapologetically black
- a loving mother to an stupendous toddler
- military wife (yes, this is my second marriage)
- first generation college grad (I’m lowkey a nerd)
- amazing daughter, sister, and friend
- novice blogger & aspiring author
- golf player
- creative mind
- major foodie
What makes my heart sing:
- my adorable Aubrey (daughter) she is my EVERYTHING!
- binge watching my favorite shows (Grey’s Anatomy is my sh*t!)
- I LOVE a good meme–I’m obsessed!
- good sister talks (i.e. women empowerment)
- and I love love
Of course, these are baseline insights into what makes me me. But I thought you should know who you are talking to, as we undertake this journey together to better understand our gender and life as a whole.
So I challenge you to ask yourself: Who am I and what makes my heart sing? Have you changed as the years have gone by? For better or worse? If it has been for worse, it’s never too late to re-write your story!